April Life Lessons

Charlotte

It’s been been a while since I last blogged.  Today’s post is less about raw food and more about the rawness of life, because my beautiful heart and soul sister Charlotte left her body on the 13th of April. Since then I’ve been immersed in the emotions and practicalities of a loved one passing.

The gift

There is something about someone dying that makes you look more closely at their being.  I remember when my youngest sister died in 2004 I was determined that her life would be an inspiration to me, so it wouldn’t be a waste that she died so young.  And her life was an inspiration.  And still is.

My beloved Charlotte was one of the most vibrant, fun and creative people I’ve ever known.  She was full of passion; completely, uniquely original.  Now I add Charlotte’s life – her creativity, originality and unconditional belief in me – to my bower of gifts that departed loved ones have given me.  I am so blessed to have known her, my beautiful heart sister and friend.

These last 3 months have been such a lesson in the impermanence of life.  I’ve experienced two extremes: my two remaining grandparents leaving us at the ripe old ages of 96, being entirely ready to leave their weakened bodies behind; and then my beautiful cousin, 44, and Charlotte, 41, still so full of potential and of their dreams of life to come.

We never know how long we have so the last few months have made me even more aware of the importance of learning to live a good and happy life.

My Good Life Declaration

A good and happy life for me is about enjoying my time here, filling it with the things that bring me joy and fulfillment.

It’s about remembering that I am totally in control of my experience of life, even when unpredictable things happen.  The perspective I choose is entirely within my control.

A good and happy life for me is about not overworking; giving myself the space and time to enjoy what I have, especially the small things.

It’s about continuing to teach myself how to not to get stressed or create stressful situations for myself, so I can experience calm and inner peace daily.

It’s about prioritising the people I love.

It’s about being inspired by life and inspiring others on their life journey.

It’s about having adventures and not being afraid to try new things, even if they might not work out.

It’s about doing more of the work that makes my soul sing; about following my heart and intuition, guiding and teaching people to love and treat themselves beautifully.

Thank you

Today my heart is full of love and gratitude for life, with all its ups and downs.  Thank you for bringing yourself to this place to read my words.

I send you love and light, for this big journey we are on together.

Your thoughts are important …

If you feel inspired by today’s post and video, please leave a reply at the bottom of the page  :).  I love to hear from you!

24 Responses

  1. Frances
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    God Bless You and Yours, dear Saskia ❤️ And Love, Light, and Peace to All who travel this Journey of Life, with its seeming cycle of birth, death, pleasure, and pain . . . _/ ❤️ \_

  2. Sheree
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    Thank you for sharing, Saskia. Sudden loss has a way of setting us straight, and you conveyed that beautifully. Sending you tender love and light from across the pond, in the middle of the USA. Your reach is far and wide.

    • Saskia
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      Thank you, beautiful lady. Lots of love to you, dear friend. xx

  3. Liz Norris
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    Saskia, thank you. Beautiful clear heartfelt words that need to be said and shared with each other. To remember what truly matters and hold that close so that we can feel and experience without being totally disturbed. Enjoy your weekend courses and I am sure your food is amazingly delicious.

    • Saskia
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      Thank you for your lovely words Liz. xx

  4. April
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    DEAR Saskia,

    All your beautiful, heartfelt words are so inspirational and I read them with tears in my eyes. Having had many losses myself and the truth is that none of us do know just how long we all have here together. I am totally guilty of never having/making time and feel constantly bogged down by daily chores . . lots of them, and now even more so with a pending move. I hope to downsize my endless ‘stuff’ as am beginning to see that less is more! Time spent doing nice things is so important. I am happy for you that you take all the great things that life does offer – and I love to emulate your fabulously bright and cheerful outlook – forever ‘Loving Life’ x

    • Saskia
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      Life gives us these painful reminders, don’t they April? I just wish it was easier to remember in between times. We are all works in progress. xx

  5. Lauky
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    Lovely, thank you for posting this. I too have recently lost some beautiful friends. Gone too soon, too young and missed forever. I vow to lead a wonderful life in their memory x

    • Saskia
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      It’s the biggest gift we can give them and ourselves, Lauky. Thank you for sharing your experience too. xx

  6. Cheryl
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    Thank you for sharing Saskia. I’m so sorry for your loss, but also inspired by your positive outlook. Your Good Life Declaration certainly strikes a chord with me. Love and hugs to you! x

    • Saskia
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      Love and hugs to you too Cheryl! I think of you often. xx

  7. Cathy McIntyre
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    Hello Saskia, thank you so much for sharing this post. How sad to hear about the deaths of all of these very young people who should have had so much life ahead of them and so much to look forward to. This must be a very sad and difficult time for you, a huge loss in your life.

    I totally agree with you that none of us know if we will continue to enjoy good health or how long our lives will be or those of our friends and family. It’s so important that we really do try to appreciate every day and enjoy the important things in life which are usually the simple things and often things that we take for granted, and if we are fortunate enough to have our health we really do have everything.

    I’ve lost two friends during the past three years, both in the prime of their lives, full of energy and fun and both looking forward to doing so many things in the future, these sad events remind us how important it is to make the most of life and to try to be content and happy and to really enjoy being with people who are important to us.

    Take care Saskia. Cathy XX

    • Saskia
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      Thank you for sharing your experience too Cathy. xx

  8. Damaris
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    Hey saskia
    Beautiful words xxx sending heartfelt hugs blessings and so much love, Dam

  9. Sweetpea
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    An inspiring post at a time of great sadness. x

  10. Sarra
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    Saskia what a beautiful post. I am so sorry to hear your news. I remember the workshop at Charlotte´s flat, a day full of vibrancy and new learnings 🙂 Life can be so fragile and it is inspiring that you have looked at it face on and made a decision on what you want to learn from it to enrich your life and of those around you. My close friends are losing loved ones at the moment and as I witness this and make myself available for the care and support they need it has also reaffirmed to me how important it is to not worry so much (a fave of mine!)and make sure I am truly living the life I want and not what I think I should be. Sending love and peace. X

    • Saskia
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      Lovely, Sarra. I’m often not sure about how much of my really vulnerable stuff to post, and it’s really reassuring to know when it helps others. Life can be so raw and full of beauty in these moments. xx

  11. Virginia Methley
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    What beautiful words and a lovely photo of Charlotte looking fabulously crazy and gorgeous. Much love to you, so much to be learned from a life well lived, full of all the important stuff, family, friends, good times out doors and lots of creativity she certainly kept all the important things close to her heart right up until the end truly an inspiration. Love And light to all Gin x x

    • Saskia
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      Our lives are all the richer for having known that gorgeous woman. xxxx

  12. Alison
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    Lovely words Saskia. Sending you lots of love .
    We’re all just visiting-all doing the best that we can – and all just walking each other home. Xxxxx

    • Saskia
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      I love that Alison 🙂 xx

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